Dealing with a College Breakup

By Ashley Paskill on February 18, 2018

Dealing with a breakup at any stage of life can be devastating. When it happens while you’re in school, it can seem impossible to deal with, especially during a time when you already have so much stress in your life. If it does occur, there are healthy ways to deal with the loss and move on stronger and better than ever. Taking care of your emotions instead of shoving them aside will help you move on.

1. Don’t bottle up your emotions.

When you’re dealing with schoolwork, activities, and a job and/or internship, it is tempting to shrug additional stressors off as not a big deal. However, this is unhealthy and can lead to more stress and releasing anger on those you care about. Find someone you trust, whether it’s a parent, friend, professor, or counselor and talk to them about your feelings. This will give you an opportunity to talk things out and get emotions out of your system.

2. Practice self-care

When life gets stressful, we tend to take care of everything and everyone besides ourselves. However, this can lead to built-up stress. After all, you cannot take care of everything else if you yourself are struggling. Practicing self-care will remind yourself that you are worthy of love, even though your relationship didn’t work out. Take a little time each day to do things you love. Take a bubble bath, go for a walk, or splurge on something you have wanted to buy for yourself. You deserve it.

3. Use the new time you have gained to learn something new.

Have you always wanted to join an organization but the meetings were on your designated date nights? Now you have an opportunity to join now that you are free those nights. This will not only prevent you from slouching around, feeling sad about your relationship ending, but it turns an upsetting experience into a positive one. You can meet new friends you may have never met otherwise and will allow you to learn new things while keeping your mind off of your sadness, if only for a little bit.

4. Spend time with your friends.

Sometimes, all you need are your friends for support. Plan a get-together or sleepover with your close friends. Get snacks and pick movies to watch. Take some time to catch up and talk about what you are going through. Your friends can offer love and a shoulder to cry on as you process the breakup and work on moving on. They can also offer advice for future relationships and perspectives on how they viewed the relationship. The talking can be therapeutic since they won’t judge you.

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